What is Counselling &
" The purpose of psychotherapy is to set people free."
In counselling & psychotherapy there are many different ‘models’ or ways of working; I work as an Integrative Therapist which simply means that I draw from a range of models so that we can find the best way of working to meet your particular needs.
We are not all the same, your life and story matters to me, they are unique to you and so it is with this in mind that I adapt my work to find the best way to work with you in your individuality and uniqueness, so that we can ensure therapy is not only a good experience for you, but a successful one.
The main types, or models of therapy are:
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
What we think affects how we feel and how we feel affects how we behave so CBT helps you to look at the way you think and the resulting behaviour. Sometimes we can think very negatively about ourselves and our lives, CBT teaches us to replace our thinking with more positive thought patterns.
Psychodynamic (and Attachment Theory)
Sometimes it helps to look at how we got to where we are. Our earliest relationships in childhood set up our 'map' for life of how we see ourselves and how we relate to others. Psychodynamic therapy helps us to uncover those unconscious influences that are contributing to our lives in the present.
This approach believes in each individual's intrinsic worth, creativity and potential for growth and tends to focus on the 'here and now'.
"Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations"
Counselling and psychotherapy can help you to gain insight into how past experiences are influencing your life now and how you relate to others. Sometimes we learn ways of being that may have been useful in our past but are outdated in our current lives; as you explore your feelings and the way you think and as you grow in self awareness and self acceptance, therapy can help you to explore new ways of being, bringing growth and freedom in your life.
Therapy can also help you to explore and process a particular difficult situation that you may currently find yourself in and are struggling to move through.
People have different reasons for coming to counselling, perhaps you want to spend a short time looking at a particular issue, or you may not be sure if counselling is for you but would like to try it and see or you may have very clear ideas about what you would like to change and what you want from therapy. Whatever your reasons for coming, we will work at your pace and for the length of time you wish. I will also ensure that we review our work from time to time, to make sure that your needs are being met.
Research* actually shows that regardless of the model the therapist uses, it is the quality of the relationship between therapist and client that determines whether or not therapy will be successful.
Because this is so important, I make it a priority to build a relationship where you feel safe, supported, valued and respected and where together we can explore the difficulties you have come with and find the solution and way ahead that you seek. This element of working together is vital because counselling is not about one person giving advice but about a partnership, me helping you to find those answers that are within you and within your grasp.
Because this ‘fit’ between therapist and client is paramount, if you choose to come to me for therapy, you are under no obligation to continue after our initial session if you do not feel that I would be the best person for you at this time.